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Sometimes I think it’s similar to hearing without really listening, listening only to form your answer, looking without seeing, and just wanting to hear one’s voice. There are also actual processing deficits that can cause this to happen to some people. mostly I think it’s going through the motions without engaging the brain and/or being distracted by whatever else might be going on.
You do raise interesting points and we need to bear these in mind especially now when one can’t be 100% sure of how valid a news report might be.
I think you are both correct, about the failure to listen or read carefully and a failure to read beyond a few soundbites or think critically.
I also agree. I do wonder if the format has anything to do with it. Everything seems so much faster now with the scroll and the quick commenting. Maybe it’s the platform though – the easier it is to quickly comment, the less thought that is required really listen or read.
I think it is reading the post partially and then scrolling on to comment and/or ask a question.
I’ve had these kinds of conversations with people before, both written and verbal. I often think, “what was going on inside their mind just now? Did they not hear/comprehend me? Was it too much information for them to absorb? Were they just not interested? Were they thinking about something else, and not truly engaged in the conversation? Do they have a hearing/reading deficit? Did I use the wrong words, or not make myself clear? What just happened here?” Unfortunately, it seems as though the answer is often “all of the above.” End result: lack of effective communication; lack of engagement between the “speakers;” a waste of time. In some circumstances, patience, understanding, and repetition are needed and can eventually solve the issue; in others, it doesn’t seem worth the effort. True communication, true connection through thoughts, ideas, and concepts takes good listening skills, a real desire to communicate, and a need to step outside one’s own thoughts and needs long enough to absorb what’s being presented. So many people just don’t want to take the time or effort to do that. They have their own agenda, and that’s all that matters to them. As for these potential pie buyers— let them eat cake! They don’t deserve the pie; Alicia has better things to do with her time than explain everything, over and over, to them!
Lol Susan! You are hilarious. Alicia’s lucky to have you to back her up!!
I think you’re all right. So many factors at play, who really knows why. But I just have to wonder if we can figure out the psychology of this somehow and then design an effective ways to communicate. Clearly people want to consume content, but it seems that the majority want very surface level messaging. I suppose that’s why the memes are so popular (says the person who posts the silliest memes in this group!)